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Thursday, April 2, 2009

Patron Saint.... A story of Autism

I read this and was so moved I wanted to share with all of you.

Jonathan's World Design By Cher Autism Graphics
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit. This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger, "Armstrong, Beth - son; patron saint - Matthew. Forrest, Marjorie - daughter; patron saint - Cecilia. Rudledge, Carrie - twins; patron saint - give her Gerard. He's used to profanity." Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her an autistic child." The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."
"Exactly," says God. "Could I give an autistic child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she the patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll handle it. I watched her today, she has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has his own world. She has to make it live in her world, and that's not going to be easy."
"But Lord, I don't think she even believes in you." God smiles, "No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?" God nods, "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a 'spoken word'. She will never consider a 'step' ordinary. When her child says'Momma' for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! I will permit her to see clearly the things I see... ignorance, cruelty, prejudice... and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing my work as surely she is here by side."
"And what about her patron saint?", asks the angel, pen poised in midair.
God smiles, "A mirror will suffice."
Jonathan's World Design By Cher Autism Graphics

2 comments:

br_oden said...

Marian, thank you for sharing. I am in tears. I have always had the greatest respect for what you and Brian have handled. Until recently I couldnt really know what you have gone through. Our circumstances are different but I never imagined having trials with our chidlren could be so heart wrenching. You are a strong woman and a great example. Ben truly is blessed to have such a loving family. I wish I were closer. But know I am always here for you as I know you will always be there for me.
Brittney

The Palacio Place said...

I completely agree with Brittney, When you emailed this to me the other day I too cried a bit. It is really amazing what you guys have gone through and that you have pulled together as a family